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Rocking Your Role as Female Breadwinner

Posted on 25/06/2012

A recent Twitter response to my question, What has been the most significant change for you over the last 12 months? was: Only one of us is employed and we have had a significant decrease in our overall income and now its all down to me!

This for me sums up the life of a female breadwinner, often juggling work, life and family in secrecy. This growing number of female breadwinners or main earners as I like to call them, rarely discuss or seek coping strategies for their complex role in the world.

Here are four tips to help you not just cope, but keep you Rocking Your Role as female breadwinner.

Regularly check your Ego

The combination of your role at work and being the breadwinner at home can become a heady cocktail intoxicating you into thinking that you are the only one who has something valid to say in your relationship. If you notice yourself thinking that your opinion is the only one matters because you are holding the purse strings, its time to check your ego.

Seek out and listen to the feedback and recognise what your partner brings to the relationship.

Own the path that you have taken

You always have a choice about the way you engage in being the breadwinner, even if you feel there is not currently a choice as to whether you are the breadwinner for your family. Recognise that by being breadwinner you are blazing a new path and leaving a legacy for future generations. Others' assumptions will change about your role when you show them that it works for you.

Embrace the fact that you have the opportunity to design the life that works for you.

Communicate, communicate, communicate

You may pride yourself on your independence, but actually we are all interdependent. A complex web of support surrounds you to make your life work, so acknowledge it and notice what you need to keep this system healthy and thriving.

Ensure you have two way communication about finances, your relationship and your work.

Kick start your wellbeing

Your physical, mental and spiritual health are critical. Investing in you now will avoid painful derailment of your work and family life later. Take time for you, it could be: dance classes, developing yourself through courses, dates with your partner, to full on retreats. My thing is meditation.

Do whatever restores balance, gives you space to breathe and let go off all the roles you play in life.

Let me know how you get on Rocking Your Role.



Jenny Garrett is an executive coach, consultant, author and speaker. She is passionate about:
* Challenging leaders to make a positive difference
* Motivating women to live their best life with pride
* Inspiring authentic leadership

Her book Rocking Your Role the how to guide to Female Breadwinners will be out in June 2012

She is founder of Reflexion Associates, a holistic and expansive leadership development consultancy that has worked internationally over the last ten years to deliver executive coaching and training with a difference: depth, personalisation and meaning.

Jennys clients are leaders from the corporate world as well as the public and third sector. The common theme is that they want to make positive change, they engage her to help them successfully do, just that.

Before becoming an executive coach, Jenny held senior marketing roles in well global private sector organisations, where she experienced the complexity of working life. She holds an MA in Management Learning and Leadership as well as a number of coaching qualifications.

You find out more about Rocking Your Role at

You can purchase Rocking Your Role from Amazon;qid=1340370320&sr=8-1

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