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Why do our values, matter?

Posted on 24/04/2012

Article submitted by Janice Taylor, Blue Sky Career Consulting

Why indeed? I suspect that for many of us our values are largely in the background, unseen and unheard until that is they are dishonoured and or ridiculed in some way. Then perhaps watch the sparks fly or our stress levels soar as we prepare to fight for what we believe in.

It may be that in the current economic climate of fear and uncertainty, people are behaving in ways that either result in them trampling over the values of others or suppressing and or denying their own.

So, before going to much further let me quote from Co-Active Coaching, which describes core values as being:

Those personal rules, standards that people live by, that effectively define the individual and who he/she is. Not who they would want to be, but who they actually are. The rules that then apply to all parts of someones life and are central to their being.

The last sentence in particular, resonates with me, in that values are about who, we are and what really matters to us and that in all walks of life it is important to have our values, accepted as being a central part of us. Without judgement or prejudice, just the acceptance that they are an important part of us and how we are choosing to live our lives.

The importance and value in fully understanding and clarifying our core values becomes most apparent perhaps when we are facing some big change and need to go back to basics, take stock and make some potentially life changing choices. It is my belief that those choices will serve us best, if based on those things that really matter to us. We are according to Neenan and Dryden (2002, p58) more self-directed and effective when we know which values we really choose to keep and live by.

Janice Taylor is a Brighton based Career Consultant, with a passion for promoting independence in others, either through the design and delivery of her courses or through her coaching work with clients.

Janice Taylor
www.blueskycareerconsulting.co.uk
careerresilience.wordpress.com
pittabread.wordpress.com
Email: blue.sky@which.net
Skype: Janice.taylor1
Twitter: @bluesky1001

References

Neenan, M.Dryden, W. (2002): Life Coaching a Cognitive Behavioural Approach; Brunner-Routledge: East Sussex
Whitworth, L., Kimsey-House, H., Sandahl, P. (1998): Co-Active Coaching, New Skills for coaching people towards success in work and life; Davies-Black Publishing: California

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